Dating a former drug dealer

I've seen more relationships fail, in the rooms, than succeed.

But that doesn't mean it can't work-- as long as the partner has a good sense of self. I met someone who was addicted to marijuana and hashish, and also alcohol.

After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.

Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?

Of course, not all addicts relapse and those that do are often able to get back on track before too much damage is done, but the threat is there nevertheless.

If you move forward with the relationship, be aware of a few unique aspects of dating someone in recovery.

They may need to meet with a sponsor or attend support group meetings at inconvenient times and your support in encouraging them to do so is essential.You may hear wild stories of drug-fueled sexscapades or run into slippery characters from their past.All of these can be difficult to understand, so you have to honestly evaluate and communicate your tolerance level.Healthy Recovery, Healthy Relationships Most recovering addicts aren’t strangers to therapy and, as a result, have spent a lot of time working on themselves and their relationships.They have learned critical relationship skills, including how to identify, process and communicate their emotions and to set personal boundaries while respecting the lines drawn by others.

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